Posts Tagged ‘mindfulness’



Imperfection is the most human characteristic.

We often find ourselves in a constant state of wanting to be perfect, expecting others to be perfect, forgiving our imperfections, and accepting the imperfections in others. This internal battle can create a tug-of-war between self-criticism and the desire to be social and supportive of those closest to us.

Who are we to be there for others when we have so many flaws ourselves? This harsh self-judgment can make us feel unworthy or not confident enough to interact with others. Alternatively, we might judge ourselves and others so harshly that we isolate ourselves from the world, clinging to imagined ideals that only exist in our minds. Neither of these paths is healthy.

“Our culture is obsessed with fixing and improving. This relentless improvement mentality can leave us feeling perpetually inadequate.” — Brené Brown

Guided Meditations

Non-judgment and loving-kindness centered meditations, from the Calm app, have been instrumental in helping me address this issue over the years. The judging mind can be hard to tame, especially in an increasingly hyper-judgmental culture. Cultivating awareness of my judging mind through meditation has been a significant help in this journey.

Amor Fati

The next step forward for me was learning about the Stoic concept of Amor Fati — a love of fate. This philosophy encourages us to accept what is outside of our control and to love whatever happens to us as if it is what we had wished for. By embracing this mindset, we can find peace and strength in our imperfections, allowing us to be open and there for others despite our flaws.

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do good and evil lie? In my own choices.” — Epictetus

Compassion

The more time I spent practicing meditation and studying Stoicism, the more I found myself dipping my toes into Buddhist teachings as well. One of those teachings is that self-compassion is the foundation for compassion towards others. We can’t pour from an empty cup.

It can be hard not to be our own worst enemy or biggest critic. The intersection of these philosophies and spiritualities helped me realize that peace begins with compassion, whether for ourselves or others.

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Authentic Acceptance

If awareness shows us the way out, acceptance is how we start moving in the direction of the right action. To be human is to be flawed. We must accept this about ourselves for our own sake and sanity. If and when we can do that, the next step is to extend that acceptance to others.

Offering ourselves acceptance allows us to exist authentically. We don’t have to lie to ourselves or others. When we can be ourselves, rather than putting up a front, we are then more able and likely to have deeper connections with others. How? Because acceptance and authenticity open doors to vulnerability.

“Vulnerability is the core of all connection, whether it’s emotional intimacy or physical intimacy. Vulnerability is what we share when we open ourselves up to love and connection. It’s the core of all empathy and connection.” — Brené Brown

It simply isn’t optional for us to embrace imperfection. If we want to grow, evolve, or be our best selves, we need to embrace our imperfections. To deepen existing relationships, resolve family conflicts, or meet new potential romantic partners, we must accept and empathize with the imperfections of others.

Our flaws are part of our journey. To become aware of them, we need to make and take time for reflection in our lives. Meditation and journaling are time-tested tactics, used in philosophy and spirituality practices, that have been very helpful for me, and I believe they can be very helpful for you as well.



The concept of being able to begin again and start over every day has fascinated me for a long time. Studying philosophy and spirituality has brought me to the idea that we can start over at any moment, with any choice we decide to make, with every breath that we take.

I know the feeling of being stuck, like I’m on a loop I can’t control. Many people, regardless of their demographic, experience this sentiment. Addressing this concept can shed light on an overlooked or under-featured area of personal growth content.

“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” — Mandy Hale

Often, I need to start again within a given day, or even within a given hour. I can have a productive morning, hit a wall in the afternoon, and then rally in the evening. Or I might struggle to get out of bed in the morning, gain momentum in the afternoon, and have a ‘meh’ evening before needing to sleep.

Keeping the concept of being able to begin again in mind is crucial. It’s easy to fall into all-or-nothing thinking, focus on the negatives, or catastrophize. Knowing that we can always begin again can relieve some of the pressure we put on ourselves. This mindset allows us to live more productively or at least more positively. The sun will come out tomorrow, after all.


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What a relief it is to learn that we don’t have to wait for tomorrow. Sometimes, the challenges of life will dictate that we power down and try again the next day. But many other times by studying and applying the wisdom of philosophy, spirituality, and humanism; we can directly take action in the present moment to begin again immediately.

  • Stoicism has a core tenet of self-reflection, (often through journaling) and course-correcting our actions, habits, and lives as we go. To begin again is to exercise virtue.
  • Buddhism encourages revising our thoughts and actions because being attached to them or anything is the root cause of suffering. Small, consistent resets are normal and natural.
  • Taoism believes in not overplanning or overreacting which is a wonderful anecdote to the catastrophizing and all-or-nothing thinking that causes us to get stuck and need to start over.
  • Humanism highlights critical thinking and adaptation to new information and experience. Change being the only constant means beginning again is a necessity.

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There is no literal reset button in this life. But a metaphorical reset is constantly possible in regards to how we choose to think, perceive, feel, and act going forward regardless of what is behind us. We can choose to begin again and change our:

  • Habits
  • Goals
  • Relationships
  • Self-Perception

Embracing the ability to revise and start over empowers us to navigate life’s challenges with resilience and hope. It’s never too late to change our stories and create new beginnings.


“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a journey, not a destination.” — Carl Rogers


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Inner peace is a term that has been used and abused over the years for a variety of reasons. It’s become a cliche and a buzzword, which in the everything-is-content-for-influencers era seems to be inevitable. But having inner peace or seeking inner peace in times of outer chaos is something that everyone can get behind.

One’s life experience is enough to know this: no matter what you do, life is better with some inner peace. Inner peace leads to better decisions, empathy, and deep conversations. It also improves active listening.

“Peace is not the absence of conflict. It is the ability to handle conflict with skillfulness.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

Inner peace lets us exercise courage, discipline, ambition, and restraint. It helps us engage with life instead of being jerked around by it. Inner peace isn’t just for yogis, meditation practitioners, and philosophy students. It is for everyone, and it is as important as cultivating physical health and critical thinking skills.

In my experience, I have found that inner peace is often confused with external peace. Inner peace is not a lack of strife, stress, or challenges. Inner peace is a calm state of being within ourselves, regardless of what is happening around us.

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Stoicism is rooted in identifying what is within our control and what is outside of our control. Learning of that concept helped me a lot. But, the idea of equanimity has been a lifesaver. It means accepting what we can’t control.

Accepting what we can’t control flows right into accepting the impermanent nature of life. I love how philosophical practices can flow into spiritual concepts which can flow into humanistic techniques.

  • Practicing mindfulness
  • Gratitude
  • Detachment
  • Acceptance
  • Congruence
  • Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Building meaningful relationships.

Are those the strategies of philosophy, spirituality, or humanism?

The answer is all of the above. After almost 20 years of study, I find a constant. The similarities in these systems, or disciplines, are a metaphorical pressure release valve.

Not a hack, a magic pill, a quick fix, or a miracle cure because no such thing exists. Rather a clear path to inner peace. Being able to take a deep breath in knowing what I’m going through isn’t new or unique.

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. ” — Epictetus

I am a human being going through what the majority of human beings go through. Knowing that there have been people for thousands of years experiencing similar internal and external challenges and have created systems, disciplines, strategies, and techniques to deal with the obstacles of existence.

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That harmony among the ancient teachings helps to cultivate inner peace before one acts on the wisdom. The symmetry between Stoicism, Taoism, Buddhism, and Humanism removes an inner fear of isolated deficiency within me. The confusion of what to do is taken away. The immature hope for a quick fix dissolves.

The what to do is there. It is simply a matter of doing. And the simpler we can make living, the more likely we are to cultivate inner peace for ourselves.

I thought I had to wait until I was ready. But the truth is, readiness comes after the return — not before.

The act of beginning again is itself the practice — not a flaw in the process, but the process. We tend to think of starting over as something reserved for mistakes or failures, as if it’s a sign we’ve strayed off course. But what if beginning again is actually the most honest course we can take?

Every breath is a reset. Every day we wake up alive is a quiet invitation to try once more — this time with a little more clarity, a little more compassion, a little less ego. We are not meant to stay in motion uninterrupted. We are meant to pause, to question, to recommit. To begin again is not weakness. It’s wisdom.

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This idea — that beginning again is not a detour but the path itself — is something the Stoics understood deeply. To them, each moment was a fresh opportunity to align with reason, virtue, and the present.

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” — Marcus Aurelius

The urgency here isn’t morbid — it’s motivational. It’s a call to reset with intention, without needing a grand reason. Just the present moment is reason enough. Focusing on what I have control over, in the present moment, and then taking action with a sense of urgency is a balanced approach to life that Stoicism has brought to my attention many times.

Where Stoicism urges us to meet the moment with discipline, Taoism invites us to meet it with ease. If the Stoics offer a firm hand on the tiller, the Tao offers an open palm to the wind.

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” — Lao Tzu

There’s wisdom in allowing our return — our beginning again — to unfold naturally, like water finding its path downhill. Taoism helps to take the weight off our backs and reduce the pressure we put on ourselves.

Taoism teaches us to flow, but Buddhism teaches us to see. To see the moment clearly, without clinging or resistance. In the Buddhist view, every beginning is just part of the great cycle of arising and passing away. The breath in. The breath out. There is no need to carry the weight of yesterday when the present is already enough.

“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” — Buddha

These ancient philosophies of nature and simplicity feel more vital than ever in a world shaped by constant productivity, curated identities, and hustle culture. Internally and externally, we’re pressured to do more, be more, and prove our worth through performance.

That pressure often leads to stagnation, analysis paralysis, and burnout. But revisiting these timeless teachings — ones that predate democracy and capitalism — offers calming reassurance. It reminds us that what we’re feeling isn’t failure. It’s human. And it makes beginning again feel not only acceptable, but natural.

Returning to the present — the Stoic, Taoist, and Buddhist invitation to simply be — also finds support in modern psychology and neuroscience. Where ancient wisdom speaks in metaphors and mantras, contemporary science offers data and neural pathways.

Dr. Andrew Huberman often reminds us that real change begins not with motivation, but with action. Tiny, repeated actions reshape the brain through neuroplasticity. So even when the mind says, “Why bother starting over?” the body can respond, “Because this is how we grow.”

Science may explain how we change, but philosophy still asks us why. Why return to a craft, a calling, a version of yourself you once abandoned?

The answer, I’ve found, is rarely logical. It’s personal. It’s emotional. Because I’m a person and people aren’t logical, we are emotional beings.

Sometimes it’s a whisper — other times a reckoning. But whatever shape it takes, it’s a form of recommitment. Not to some imagined perfection, but to the values and curiosities that make us feel most alive.

“You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago.” — Alan Watts

All of this — the philosophy, the science, the stillness — eventually brought me back to something simple but easy to forget: the quiet power of recommitment. Not a dramatic restart. Not a brand-new version of me. Just a returning.

A choice to keep showing up, to remember what matters most, and to walk toward it again, even if slowly. I’ve realized it’s not about being perfectly consistent. It’s about being consistently willing to try — to give whatever effort you have in you, in the moment.

There will always be reasons to delay the return — doubt, fear, the feeling that we’ve waited too long. But the truth is, we don’t need permission to begin again. Not from others, and not even from our past selves.

The beginner’s mind is the bravest mind. The moment we choose to return — to a habit, a purpose, a part of ourselves — we’re already on the path. Whether it’s through meditation, journaling, movement, or simply pausing to take a breath, there are so many ways to come home to yourself. Whichever path you take, just know this: beginning again doesn’t make you a beginner. It makes you human. It makes you brave.


It can be offputting to hear the concept that the past is nothing more than thoughts in our heads. We know it happened. Often, we have physical proof that it happened. But when it’s over, where does the past exist in the present moment?

For many of us (myself included) our past exists in the present through the stories we tell ourselves in our heads. We turn a singular experience into a defining trait. We do this by repeating a narrative to ourselves and the world, over and over.


“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” — Marcus Aurelius


Our memory of the past and how we think and feel about ourselves in the present are shaped by the stories we tell ourselves and others about it. For better and for worse, this creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. For many, it creates a vicious circle that, without awareness or action, can become destiny disguised as fate.


“We become what we think about all day long.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson


It isn’t the past or even the self-talk stories about the past that are the problem; rather, our attachment to them is the problem. The first time I got a whiff of attachment as the root of all suffering was listening to the audiobook version of A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. That was about a year or two before I started habitually doing guided meditation practices. I can remember not wanting to get out of my car in my university’s parking lot because I was so mesmerized by what I was hearing.


“The root of suffering is attachment.” — Buddha


Unfortunately, hearing and reading the concept didn’t create a miracle-epiphany-cure all. It danced around in my head for a minute before exiting stage left and being drowned out by habitual thoughts and emotions in the other direction. But I can still remember sitting in that parking lot to this day. So it’s fair to say that at least a seed was planted that day.

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Repetition is key to learning. We need to hear, see and do things repeatedly for them to stick. That is why the stories in our heads become our destiny. We repeat them more times than we could ever possibly count. It is also how we let go of the old stories and define ourselves by what we do in each present moment. Repetition.

I had to hear and read about the concept of attachment as the root of suffering repeatedly but also phrased differently. I’ve gravitated to Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism over the years because I feel that many of their core principles overlap. Amor Fati and Wu Wei. Letting go of attachment and choosing to focus on what is within your control. I feel like before I learned these principles my life was all yin and no yang or vice versa.

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Journaling can create mental space. It does this by getting our thoughts, emotions, and self-talk onto paper. We can use meditation to cultivate awareness. We can also tap into the wisdom of ancient philosophies and spiritual practices. They have helped people with our issues for thousands of years. A gratitude practice can help us habitually think positively. It can also boost our mood and beliefs.

With enough consistent, focused execution we can create new narratives for ourselves because we will be living new lives. Maybe externally everything may look the same. But our experience of the world is from the inside out.

I have had to challenge myself constantly to journal, to be more mindful, and to be more grateful. To shift focus from the external to the internal. From the past to the present. From the negative to the positive. And it is a challenge, but it is a challenge worth undertaking. Why? Because habitualizing these practices allows us to begin again infinitely.


“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”- Max Planck