Homeownership, a foundation of the economic middle class, a trademark of the American Dream.
So many capitalist bootlickers, who confuse having a comma in their bank account with their class status, love to point to the stock market as a sign of how well the American economy is doing.
We humans love to feel smart and in control.
The modern American economy, this side of The Great Recession is drastically more complex and out of control of the average consumer and worker regardless of if theyâre in false class solidarity with the 1%.
Record homelessness means the system is a failed, broken disgrace.
Tent cities becoming an established norm across the country means the American Dream has become a living nightmare.
But it is hard to care about others when we are so busy just trying to keep our heads above water. Trying to make enough to keep ourselves warm, fed, and dry leaves little time or energy to help those who have already fallen through the cracks.
It would just be nice if we stopped lying to ourselves about it. But that would mean a drastic, immediate change in human nature. Iâm guess BlackRock will get out of the real estate business before that happens.
As an exercise in building self esteem and self confidence I was recently challenged to list thirty things I like or love about myself. My list is below. I found it to be an effective and pragmatically valuable exercise. I recommend it.
1. BxB XI Experience
2. Pro wrestling experiences
3. Vest in the world
4. Beard
5. Blog
6. Poetry
7. Journaling
8. Meditation practice
9. Weight training
10. Yoga
11. Bracelets
12. House plants
13. Media Communications BA
14. Alcohol tolerance
15. Sense of humor
16. Reading habit
17. Music taste
18. Concert experiences
19. Rave experiences
20. Poker experiences
21. Hair
22. Nightlife Experiences
23. Knowledge of/Taste in entertainment
24. Knowledge of/Taste in sports
25. Study of stoicism & philosophy
26. Study of spirituality
27. Desire for personal development
28. Hallucinogen knowledge/experiences
29. Supplement knowledge/consumption
30. Survival and thriving through grief and depression
Consumerism as a mandatory sign of love, caring, and affection.
Thatâs the American Way
It certainly is the holiday season in a nutshell for capitalists and their bootlickers.
Donât dare ask why you have to buy someone something to show you love/care for them. Donât even ask if there is something they actually need or can tangibly use in their day to day life.
Just buy them something, or youâre a piece of garbage. The more you spend, the better person you are. Whether itâs a lot of little things, a few medium things, or a really big thing. The more you spend, the more you are allowed to feel good about yourself.
Until the next day when you wake up. Until the next week when the holiday is over. Until the next month when the bill(s) come. Until next yearâŠ
62% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck, but do we dare buy groceries or pay someone elseâs bills for the holiday? No, because that would be charity and if they want charity then they can pick themselves up by the boot straps and get a job. Oh they have a job? Well get a second job. Oh they have a second job? UhâŠwellâŠstop buying avocado toast and fancy coffee.
âBetween stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.â
It would be nice to say that I had an awakening or an epiphany that changed the way I lived forever all at once.
The older I get, the more I feel like that isnât how change works.
Iâve had, what I thought were life changing epiphanies, repeatedly. Life changing visions, repeatedly. Life changing moments, repeatedly. I thought after X or Y happened to me that I would live differently from that point onward.
Habits always win out however. Choices, actions done repeatedly make our lives.
The concept of Stimulus-Space-Response was a concept I first learned from a rented audio book by Stephen Covey. He was telling the story of Holocaust survivor Dr. Victor Frankl.
Learning about that concept I can still remember thinking, in the library I was listening to the audiobook in; that this was going to change my life from that point on.
I thought my depression, laziness, anxieties would all be instantly and forever changed now that I knew that there was a space between stimulus and response.
I get to choose how I respond?! I can cultivate and grow that space?!! Surely this will change my life immediately. I will only make good choices now. I will only do right actions.
The older I get, the more I feel like that isnât how change works.
But learning about Stimulus-Space-Response is one of the closest things Iâve ever experienced to an epiphany that stuck. I suppose a more apt metaphor would be that of a seed being planted. A seed of lasting change was planted that day.
Stephen Covey also used farming as an analogy for change and for life. I may have planted the seed(s) for growth, but I failed to tend to the soil properly with patience and persistence. Then the harvest was nothing.
It is a great concept that more people should know about. The knowledge that we can choose what happens to us no matter what happens. Because we have the ability to think, perceive, and assign meaning in our brain. Unlike most animals.
I think most people are unaware of this. I know I was. I think most people think that to live, is to live reactively. Just reacting to whatever happens to us and around us whether good, bad, or indifferent.
But we can choose to stop, breath, think, and choose.
Itâs no magic pill, no such thing of course. But it can help. It helps me.
âHistory is always written the winnersâ Dan Brown
It is in our nature to follow rather than lead. It is in our nature to believe rather than to question.
If it wasnât, we wouldnât be so easy to propagandize.
And in the modern world, humans are constantly propagandized.
Propagandized to buy, to believe, to escape, to be lead.
It is in our nature to believe we are the good guys. Individually we constantly tell ourselves in our own head that we are a good person. That our family, our tribe, our community, our country, our gender, are the good ones.
That bias is leveraged.
Smart phones have turned peer pressure into a propaganda atom bomb that never stops detonating.
What feels better than being right? Especially when life can make us feel so wrong sometimes.
So when a war is waged, of course weâre the good guys. What did the other side do? Why? War is the only answer?
Where does the money for war come from? What else could that money be used on? Who makes money during a war?
Money can be made during a war? Is that a good thing. Of course, because weâre the good guys.
But if weâre the good guys, descendants of the winners of all the previous wars, then these questions are moot, unpatriotic, and weak. And we canât have that, what if our enemies found out?
Luckily for us, weâre the good guys.
Itâs the good guys in charge.
Itâs the good guys dropping bombs.
Itâs the good guys selling weapons.
Itâs the good guys controlling the media.
Itâs the good guys running the economy.
Because if theyâre not good, what does that mean about us?